I am as yet unmedicated- I have been surviving motherhood thus far on sheer desperation and grit! (Haha!!)
If you are looking for some tips to help a totally unmotivated mother survive kids- here are some of mine!
1. Winter socks!!! They make me crazy. Sandals in summer help a lot with the laundry but winter socks?!?! No! I can’t deal. Here is my solution.
2. Dishes: just no. I won’t do them. So I no longer rinse first. If the “dishwasher” can’t wash it then it just gets run again. I throw it all in- hardened food or you name it! Wash always on heavy cycle. Repeat for the stubborn dishes.
3. Laundry. Why does laundry never happen?!? My pro tip: buy a home with the washing machine easily accessible on an average day. Preferably one you see and walk by multiple times a day. (because out of sight out of mind!) but even if you can’t do that…..
- Wash everything on cold all together
- Teach your kids as young as 6 to do Their own laundry. (Do it with them of course!)
- Always super loads
- Get a folding board so your kids can fold and put away their own.
- Toss/store boxes next to the washing machine
- The homeroutines app- I get no money from them whatsoever. But it has changed my life. (well it did for 4 months. I will start using it again when I get medication to get back into habits.) put everything into it!! Make it your own and check off every single routine you have to accomplish including showering and makeup and “lay out clothes for tomorrow” and you name it!
- Also: this one is huge. The “OurPact app” if you are addicted to a device. Have a friend or spouse set it up for you. Have the same friend or spouse change your iTunes or google play password so that you can’t access your addictions. (Put homeroutines on a different device- on a stand- in your kitchen. And make the device never fade or go to battery saver so you can see it always.)
- Huge family calendar. Must must use and look at every day. It is your brain and working memory for big details.
- Lastly: always start yourself “moving” by doing an enjoyable task. For me that’s taking a much needed and cherished shower. I can always talk myself into one- and it forces me to do other tasks: get dressed, deodorant, bra.. and if I use the momentum from those tiny tasks I can often start the dishes or begin another task too!
This is how I have survived so far in life. I just got diagnosed yesterday. Also: go easy on yourself. You are doing great! Reading this is something (procrastinatingly) productive. It’s better than free cell or clash of clans or YouTube. You have got today! Comment me some of your ADHD pro tips!! I need all the help I can get too!